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Giving people their flowers...


I think it is fair to say that we all have things that we may have done differently with the benefit of hindsight, but bad things notwithstanding, I don't know who I would be without all my life experiences, both good and bad. Like many of us, I have spent the last couple of years seeing so many people suffering through losses, grief and regrets and it has made me even more conscious of why telling people how I really feel is so important.

A little while ago, we spent an afternoon on our family holiday visiting the Donkey Sanctuary in Sidmouth. Us adults had a wonderful time whereas my niece announced that she "didn't like donkeys" not long after her arrival which is just about typical for a toddler!

The sanctuary is truly lovely and well worth visiting if you happen to be nearby, but the part that stuck with me the most were the beautiful dedications to loved ones that were dotted around the sanctuary. People had shared tributes and they were all so heartfelt. One set in particular really moved me; Leonard (Len) sharing his love for Joyce brought me to tears.

Following our visit, I became fixated on the idea of what my memorial would say and how I would like to be remembered. I asked Mark and my family to buy me a memorial plaque (although my living status apparently puts a spanner in the works). But honestly? I can't think of anything nicer than having a tangible reminder that you can visit and cherish alongside the person.

I am a big fan of being upfront about my feelings and since then, I have tried to use this impetus to tell people how much I love and appreciate them, while they can hear me say it, whether that is face-to-face, over a call, text or in a letter. (I thoroughly recommend writing love letters to your best friends, is there anything nicer than unprompted love in the post?!)

There is something so wonderful about being known and I don't want anyone to have any doubt about how I feel about them (good or bad). It's easy to say that you won't have regrets and hard to make that a reality but you will never regret sharing your true feelings. 

It is terrifying to be vulnerable but wouldn't you rather get and give your flowers while you can truly appreciate them? 

Maria xx

Red overload...

Red dresses have long been a staple in my wardrobe and this smock number from good old M&S is a fun addition to my collection. I am not a fan of sleeves on dresses (although I've worn a few recently!) but I fell in love with the relaxed shape of this dress. Smock shapes are not the most flattering on me but they are very comfy and the gorgeous crochet detailing on the waistband meant I was sold! I wore this for a family meal a few weeks ago and it was ideal, especially for my postprandial snooze on the sofa! I may have gone a little overboard on the red front here (yes I do have red dress, nails and lipstick) but it is my favourite colour...

Dress: Marks & Spencer, shoes:Whistles (via eBay), tights: Tesco
I have been trying to do more with my hair recently now it is a bit longer and these soft waves were the perfect match for these vintage style waves. I am lucky enough to have fairly curly hair so I was able to just brush out my natural curls and smooth them down with this Bumble and Bumble styling creme. I don't like to use a lot of products on my hair but this one is so light and a little goes a long way.


I love block heels and this slimline Whistles pair are so elegant. I just need to keep scouring eBay until another pair turn up in my size!


Are you a fan of smock dresses? What's your favourite colour to wear?

Exploring Slapton Sands in Devon...(PICTURE HEAVY)

Last weekend, Mark and I headed down to Devon to spend a few days relaxing with my in-laws. We stayed at The Old Torcross Hotel which was converted into apartments and it was the perfect location, literally 20 steps to the beach with the most amazing views. I have always loved being by the sea and I could feel the stress lifting as soon as we stepped out of the car.


Out of my comfort zone...

Blogging is a funny old game, and one I didn't do much of in 2016. It was a very strange year for me and mine, we had some lovely highs (including celebrating a decade with Mark, being bridesmaid for my little sister, spending V-day with some of the best people I know, being made permanent at workvisiting Barcelona and even managing to feel more at ease with myself and my body thanks to semi-regular exercise) but I also had some really tough times, especially with my dad's accident. Luckily he is much much better now and will continue to improve but there's nothing like a big shock to push you out of your comfort zone! I'm not very good at asking for help but so many people stepped up to the plate this year so thank you, you don't realise how much it helped! Slightly maudlin but I'm hoping that 2017 will be calmer, there's plenty to look forward to but slightly less drama excitement would be nice! I have always been a great believer in the transformative power of clothes and this top was both a fun purchase and another step out of my shell. I tend to avoid drop waisted clothes but I loved the fun print and shape and couldn't bear to leave it on the shelf.

Top: Warehouse, jeans: River Island, shoes: Clarks
It was the perfect choice for a lunch date with Mark as it looks fancy but is actually mega comfy and easy to wear. It makes enough of a statement that I didn't have to hunt down any extra accessories which is always a win in my book!


I have worn much less foundation this year,  it's amazing how distracting a swipe of bright lipstick can be! This is my failsafe summery shade: Max Factor  in Bewitching Coral, it is one of those colours that looks good on everyone...


You can't beat a swooshy hem! 😍

Bag: vintage
I have had this bag for donkey's years but apparently I have never posted about it on the blog which is a surprise! I think I picked up on one of my charity shop trips at uni but can't be 100% sure without my handy wardrobe referencer (a.k.a my archive of outfit posts). I love the super soft suede and snazzy tassel and it is surprisingly roomy for such a small bag, I managed to fit my purse, massive keyring and all of my diabetes stuff in, not bad going at all!


A better look at that hemline and a repeat of the bottom half of this outfit... oops! I have missed sharing my outfit pictures over on the blog and whilst I'd love to promise that this is all going to change with the dawn of a new year,  realistically, I don't think I will ever get back to my old schedule of posting every other day like in the good old days! I'm hoping to spend more time reading (and commenting) on my favourite blogs this year so please do hit me up with your favourites!

A day out at RHS Flower Show Tatton Park...

My sister is getting married in mid-August  (not long to go now!) and we spent this weekend up in Manchester to celebrate her hen do. We spent the majority of the day at the RHS flower show at Tatton Park, followed by dinner at The Old Sessions House then drinks at The Alchemist in Spinningfields. It was a really nice day, even if I did get sunburnt and drink too many cocktails! I only had my phone so please excuse the lo-fi pictures, I was going old school!


Café Smithy was my first stop, you can't beat a flat white and Eggs Benedict to get your day started off on the right foot!



As you would expect, the gardens were filled with hundreds of beautiful flowers.


I did not expect to see so much veg there though, these award-winning onions were seriously impressive!


I love how many different types of squash there were too! 


I have never seen a horned melon before but I have to confess that I am intrigued!


If only you could get these beautiful beans at my local Tesco!


I'm not sure what this was but it looks pretty primeval...



I would have stolen this if I could have fitted it into my handbag!





My mum spent a lot of time trying to work out how we can recreate this beautiful arch/table combo for the wedding in a couple of weeks...


They had sheds made up to different themes, I loved this little library one...



The millennial shed was super cool, the idea was that a shed is all any of us will be able to afford to live in with rising rents and house prices!


'The Seed Bouquet' was inspired by the flowers in a traditional wedding bouquet. I love how bright and cheery the flowers are against the dark grey.


The bride-to-be in the wedding shed!



The inside out shed wa probably my favourite though: tools on the outside, plants inside!


I have no idea what these were but they look pretty darned cool...


Gigantic lilies...


We had to stop for a glass of Prosecco (or two) to cool down...

This is a look of pure concentration
This had to be the best part of the day for me- we made mini willow baskets with the Woodland Skills Centre and it was so much fun!


How cute is this?! I was told I had 'good weaving technique' and I couldn't have been prouder, I was such a teacher's pet! I am seriously considering doing a course to make a stool or something for my birthday though, how cool would that be?!

The lovely hens with the bride, can you tell who I am related to?! ;)
I can't believe we have had the hen do already, now just to countdown to the wedding in a couple of weeks!

Champagne lace and faux fur...

The weather may be warming up slightly but I'll take any opportunity to wear this ridiculously glamourous coat! I wore this outfit for our big family meal at Dumbleton Hall and it was perfect for the (very fancy) surroundings. I love any opportunity to get all dressed up and this coat makes anything look snazzy...

Coat: Topshop
I inherited this dress off Mark's mum a couple of years ago and I really love it, the shape is super flattering and the stretchy waist allows for plenty of pigs in blankets! ;) Usually I would shy away from such a pale shade but the black underlay stops it from looking too similar to my pasty pale skin tone! 

Dress: Therapy via Mark's mum, shoes: c/o George at ASDA, bracelet: Accessorize

 The neckline on this dress is so pretty and I'm a fan of anything that means I don't have to dig out a matching necklace! My make-up is basically the same as I wore it here (how original of me) as I am loving glowy skin and pretty pink lipstick at the moment and the combination works whatever you are wearing. I curled my hair using my GHDs and was really pleased with the results. I recently bought some Bumble and Bumble Styling Creme to help keep my curls in check. I love the smell of it and a little bit goes a long way, I may have to treat myself to a full size bottle soon! 


I love a full skirt and the tulle layer under this one makes it perfect for swooshing around in. These wedges are so comfortable and perfect for adding that little bit of height. I am more than a little bit unstable in heels so anything that makes it easier is a win in my eyes!



Which clothes make you feel glamourous?